3 Tarot Spreads for Checking in with Your Relationshipsgemini december 2020 love horoscope

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3 Tarot Spreads for Checking in with Your Relationshipsgemini december 2020 love horoscope

3 Tarot Spreads for Checking in with Your Relationshipsgemini december 2020 love horoscope

If you’re looking for a relationship tarot spread, you’ve come to the right installment of Fool’s Journey! Today I’ll be sharing a few relationship tarot spreads with you, which you can use to look at what’s going on with your relationships. Firstly with your one-to-one relationships, secondly a spread for polyamorous folks, and lastly a little spread that’s just for loving your wonderful self.

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First, a couple of little tarot-land updates… Remember the Slow Holler queer/Southern tarot project we mentioned a few weeks back? Good news! Its ambitious Kickstarter campaign was successful and the deck is going to be produced — which means another beautiful queer tarot deck soon to be available. Hurrah!

Also, if you’re interested in taking your tarot practice further, did you know I’ve created an eight-week online course? It’s called the Alternative Tarot Course and it’s $25. It’s a little like The Artist’s Way, with daily and weekly practices, lots of exercises to try out, and a different topic each week. I’m just sayin’!


New to tarot? A ‘tarot spread’ is a predetermined layout for your cards, where each card has a specific position — check out the spreads below and you’ll see what I mean. Typically, you’ll shuffle your cards, then lay out one card at a time according to the spread. Each card is then interpreted according to its position.

You, Me and Us: a relationship tarot spread

This spread can be used to examine the relationship between any two people – for example, you could use it with a friend or a colleague or of course with a partner.

The first column of cards represents you (or person 1, if you’re reading for other people). The second column is the other person (person 2). The third column runs down the centre of the spread, and represents the relationship itself.

Person 1 1. How they view themselves2. How they view person 23. How they view the relationship

Person 24. How they view themselves5. How they view person 16. How they view the relationship

Centre7. A key strength in this relationship8. A weaker point in this relationship9. Where the relationship seems to be heading10. Advice: What the relationship needs

PS If you’re short on time or just want something simpler, you’ll find a mini version of this spread here!


A polyamory tarot spread

There are two different versions of this spread. Sometimes you want to look at the whole shebang, and draw cards for the other people involved (version 2), other times you want to focus on yourself and your needs, without the distraction of other peoples’ energy (version 1).

Either way, this spread has a one-person focus at its heart. What I like about this spread, and why I often use it with poly querents, is that its focus is so strongly on what the individual is experiencing.

The card layout remains the same whichever version you choose:

Version 1

The focus is totally on you as an individual here, looking at where you’re at and what you bring to/need from the relationship.

1. Who you are in this relationship – two cards, one crossed by the other. The first is you, right at the centre. The second is your ‘challenge’ at this time, or something you are carrying.2. Your special skills – personal qualities you are bringing to the relationship (three separate cards)3. A potential issue, and a possible solution.4. A potential issue, and a possible solution.5. Your safe place – when you are giving and receiving so much love and energy, it’s important to have a place where you can retreat. This card offers an idea of a place that is just yours, something you don’t have to share if you don’t want to.

Version 2

The focus stays mainly on you, but there is space to bring in other partners and a card for the relationship as a whole entity.

1. Who you are in this relationship – two cards, one crossed by the other. The first is you, right at the centre. The second is your ‘challenge’ at this time, or something you are carrying.2. Energy brought by other people into your relationship/s. Lay as many cards here as you have partners. Each of these cards represents one of your partners, how they are affecting you right now or what they are bringing to the relationship.3. A potential issue, and a possible solution.4. A potential issue, and a possible solution.5. The foundation of the whole thing – why you are doing this, a safe place that everyone can come back to if things get rocky, or something you can celebrate together if things are good.

Cards are from The Fountain Tarot


The ‘why I’m totally awesome’ tarot spread

No partner? Just need some self-love? This relationship tarot spread is just for you.

Try using this as a ‘flash-card’ spread — so immediate, one-line responses only. Try not to go too deep, just say or jot down the first thing that comes to you (for an example, check out my personal reading using this spread.)

1. What’s totally awesome about me is…2. My favourite thing about myself is…3. I am brilliant because…

And if that hasn’t sorted you out, go right ahead and pull one more card:

4. One reason it doesn’t matter if I have one lover, three partners or no sweetie at all is…


Have you got a favourite ‘relationships’ tarot spread? Tried out any of the spreads above? Or got any tips for doing tarot in couples or groups? Let us know in the comments!

gemini december 2020 love horoscope3 Tarot Spreads for Checking in with Your Relationships

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